Golf, Memorials, and Life

On a brisk and frosty morning, the day afterbase of a sapling. I finished three-putting and walked
Thanksgiving my son and his brother-in-law golfed attoward the "golfside" attraction. My mind was thinking
Allenmore Golf Course in Tacoma, Washington. Ourthat perhaps this was the site of a golfing death just
tee time was 9:07 a.m. Tee boxes and fairwayslike you often see along roadsides at the scenes of
offered silver playing fields. Powered golf carts wereauto accidents. I visualized someone my age and
to stay on the pathways and temporary greensweight stumbling and falling to the ground, perhaps
were mandatory on the early holes.first clutching their chest and then relaxing their grip
About the third or fourth hole I complained about theallowing a still glowing cigar to roll from their fingers
temperature. Scott, the brother-in-law said he wouldwith embers and life slowly growing cold.
have some sympathy for me except for the fact IGreeting me was the sight of a miniature memorial.
was wearing shorts. I laughed and said, "I hold theSmall American and Marine Corps. Flags flanked the
clubs with my hands, not my knees and it's my handsimage of a "lance corporal" who died in "2005," which
that are freezing."was all I could read before my head dropped in
Simple putts hopped, skipped, and thudded to a stopinstant sorrow. Four golf balls encircled a centered
with a layer of ice added to newly formed snowballs.one. I think there was writing on that one. Maybe
Drives weren't hit as hard as usual. Many shotsthey were each signed. I don't know. Perhaps the
resulted in stinging sensations and the grips justlance corporal died locally, but living in my community,
never felt right. Personally, I didn't want to walk thatwhich includes the army base of Ft. Lewis and the air
much on the cold grass so took slow studiedforce base of Mchord Field, I knew in an instant this
backswings, controlled forward swings, and almostwas a casualty of war and not golf.
aimed with deliberate approach shots. This wasCredit card and mortgage bills arrive by mail telling us
unusual for me. I finally cut loose on the 18th hole,of payments and obligations for the lives we live.
and left the course one ball down.Crosses by the side of the road remind us of the
The tenth hole saw me with a nice drive thatpossible cost of driving. The size of our bellies signal
reached the top of a hill leaving a good look at thelifestyle excesses we choose. But, memorials beside
flag across a little valley. I didn't quite make the greenfairways drive home the point of freedom and the
on the second shot, so had to chip onto theprice of living in America.
regulation green. Shots requiring divots wereI had a marvelous time golfing with Patrick and Scott.
questionable for me, although Scott and my sonIt was a gorgeous day for sharing. I tell people about
Patrick powered through the frozen ground wheregolf balls suspended on the frozen ponds at each of
they needed. I ended up with a long putt, which wasthe water hazards. I tell my other friends about
the result of a seven-iron attempt at bump and run.joking around. I tell them about excellent four-iron
Bad bump. No run.shots I made and almost playing an entire game
Past the hole and just over the berm, before thewithout suffering the loss of a ball, but I won't tell
golf path and the next fairway I could see small flagsthem about the memorial. I can write about it, but I
flying, which had been stuck into the ground at thecan't talk about it.