Networking Etiquette - Stop the Snatching and Grabbing

I recently had a conversation with several businessfor the information the snatch and grabber is asking
owners on the purpose of a networking event. Wedo not feel bullied to give it away for free. It also
all know that networking events have severaltakes you realizing that the person is a snatch and
purposes. But we came to the conclusion that manygrabber and not just innocently asking a question as
people attend networking events with the intent toa way to establish rapport. After brainstorming with
snatch and grab free information from the otherseveral business owners I realized I needed a script
attendees.to follow when approached by a snatch and grabber.
Now, don't get me wrong. We all love to share ourI have learned to say "That is a great question.
expertise. But most people are at networking eventsPlease call my office so we can make an
with the high hopes they will meet prospectiveappointment to discuss it further." This is also a time
clients, people who can refer clients, or meet jointfor me to request their business card and offer mine.
venture partners. We even go hoping to make newAfter getting their card you will want to change the
friends. We don't go to networking events to betopic by complimenting them on their clothing or
accosted or raped of our intellectual property. If youturning to another person nearby and bringing them in
are a snatch and grabber you are being rude; so stopto a new conversation. The snatch and grabber will
it.attempt to brow beat you into giving away your
Let me describe the snatch and grabber. The snatchintellectual property for free. Be strong and do not
and grabber has no intention of ever hiring you. He orgive it away for free. I recently encountered a
she is there to snatch and grab free information.snatch and grabber on a social networking site too.
They will approach you each time they see you atSo be careful snatch and grabbers have graduated
events and ask one or two very specific questionsfrom traditional networking events to social
which you will answer. They will never invite you tonetworking sites.
lunch or coffee. Most likely they will not even returnBusiness owners listen up. You must stand up to the
your emails. I have even had one snatch and grabbersnatch and grabber. A realtor is not going to give you
pretend at each event she had never met mea free house so why are you giving away your
before. Yet, at each event she had snatched andinformation for free? A car salesman is not going to
grabbed; that is why I remembered her so very well.give you a free car and you won't receive free
Your typical networking attendee would not think ofstocks from the stock broker so stop the snatchers
asking such specific questions unless they hadand grabbers in their tracks by having a script ready
requested an appointment to meet with you andso you do not give away your brain for free.
expected to pay you for your intellectual property orRemember, networking events are NOT for
service.snatching and grabbing. They are great ways to
So how do you handle the snatch and grabber? Thismeet prospective clients, gather referrals and leads,
takes you having a back bone and not giving awaymake referrals and provide leads, meet joint venture
your knowledge for free. If clients typically pay youpartners and make great friends.