Soldiers of Fortune to Soldiers of Despair - What Needs to Change

I thought real hard about writing this article. I decidedofficer school in the east coast. I tried to convince
that my information needs to be shared.him to get counseling. Unfortunately by the time he
My ex husband is in the army reserves who servedwas convinced we not only got divorced but he
in Iraq in 2003-2004. At that time he was an E-6. Heserved another year in Iraq.
left a devout Christian with a Master's degree whoHe is temporarily living with me because we still own
never drank an ounce of alcohol. He came back anour home together. He earned a bronze star medal
alcoholic with P.T.S.D. At that time we were stillwhile serving in Baghdad for his exemplary
married. Since then we have gotten divorced. Thisperformance. I was very proud of him. He again is
time he served as an Officer and just returned 20suffering from P.T.S.D and alcoholism.
days ago.I was hoping he would be different. I was hoping
The following is my story and my ideas about whatthat this time he would get more support from the
the government needs to do that is not being done.military. His first tour was in 2004-2005. This tour was
My ex husband is the perfect military soldier. His idea2008-2009. I received a packet from the military
and his life is about serving and protecting ourexplaining P.T.S.D and numbers to call for help. This
country. He read his bible daily and followedtime I was prepared, or so I thought.
Christianity to the fullest. He was a great provider,Unfortunately much to my amazement I made a
loving and dedicated to his work. He originally servedphone call to one of their numbers. I pleaded for their
13 years in the navy before transferring over to thehelp. I begged them to come pick him up. The
Army reserves. He transferred to the Army becauseresponse I received was sorry but we cannot help
he wanted to become more involved. He is an actionanyone unless they ask for it. They said if he gets
adventure type of guy.out of hand to just call the police!
His first tour in Iraq was 18 months. When he arrivedWhat proud soldier is going to admit they need help?
home he was a completely different man. He cameWhere is the help from our government? Much to
home with alcoholism and post traumatic stressmy surprise before he arrived home he was sent to
syndrome. He would wake up in the middle of theFort Carson, Colorado. They took his unit out into a
night screaming and running around the house with hisdesert and left them with soldiers who had swine flu!
gun. He said, "I can hear a blade of grass moveThey were all let go after a few questions of their
outside our window." He spent 18 months living inillness and sent them on their way.
fear every day of his life. While in Iraq he slept atThere are so many families suffering because of our
night with a knife and gun and heard bombssoldiers. My idea is that every soldier that comes
exploding all day. Here he did not know whom heback needs to be sequestered in a safe environment
could trust. As he put it, "in Iraq you know who theand each and everyone of them needs a
enemy is but here it is hard because he did not knowpsychological evaluation before they are even sent
who to trust"...he did not even trust me. It was aback home. These men give up their lives and come
very scary time for me. I could not get him any helphome a complete mess. They become a danger to
because no one would help him unless he asked.themselves, their families, and to their surroundings.
His drinking problem led him to lose his civilian job andSomething needs to be done and the unaware public
two DUI's He was involved in a major single carneeds to know.
accident. Shortly afterward he left again for Army